It’s Father's Day: Sunday 15 June 2025

Father’s Day is a time to celebrate the dads who make a difference in their children’s lives. Whether it’s through big gestures or small everyday moments, it’s a chance to reflect on the important role fathers play in shaping their children’s future. But Father’s Day also gives us an opportunity to talk about something more fundamental: the role of both parents in a child’s life.

In the UK, family law has always recognised that children are better off when both parents are actively involved in their upbringing. And this isn’t just an opinion, it’s something the law strongly supports. In fact, the Children Act 1989 makes it clear that both parents should be involved in their child’s life, even if the parents are no longer together.

What does the law say about parental involvement?
When parents separate, it’s common to think that one parent will take the lead in raising the child, but the law actually has a different view. The Children Act 1989 assumes that both parents should be involved in their child’s life unless there are serious reasons why it’s not safe or appropriate for one parent to do so.

This idea is known as the “presumption of parental involvement.” It means that, unless there are good reasons otherwise, both parents have a right to be involved in decisions about their child’s care and upbringing. These include things like where the child will live, their education, and their health.

Why is involvement from both parents important?
Research consistently shows that children tend to do better when both parents are actively involved in their upbringing. This doesn’t necessarily mean they need to spend exactly the same amount of time with each parent, but it does mean both parents should have a meaningful role in the child’s life.

Having both parents involved gives children the emotional support they need to feel secure and confident. Children benefit from the love and attention that both parents provide, and it helps them develop a strong sense of self-worth. Additionally, each parent brings something different to the table. For instance, fathers might interact with their children in ways that help them learn different life skills and lessons. These differences in parenting styles provide children with a broader range of experiences that can help them grow emotionally and socially.

Children with both parents involved in their lives (even if they are separated) also tend to do better in school. When both parents take an active interest in their child’s education, children are more likely to feel supported and motivated to succeed. Having both parents invested in their learning creates an environment where education is valued and encouraged.

Research has also shown that children who have both parents actively involved in their lives are less likely to face problems such as behavioural issues or academic struggles. The emotional and practical support from both parents helps them feel more secure, which can reduce stress and contribute to better overall well-being.

How does the law support father’s rights?
For many fathers, staying involved in their children’s lives after a separation can be challenging. The good news is that UK law supports their right to remain part of their child’s upbringing.

Fathers who are married to the mother at the time of birth or who are named on the child’s birth certificate automatically have what’s known as “parental responsibility” (PR). This gives them the right to make decisions about their child’s welfare, including their education, health, and where they live.

However, fathers who are not married to the mother or are not listed on the birth certificate may not automatically have PR. In these cases, fathers can still gain PR through an agreement with the mother, by applying for a court order, or by marrying the mother.

If parents can’t agree on the best way to share time with their children after a separation, they may need to go to court. The court’s main priority will always be the welfare of the child, and it will make decisions based on what is in the child’s best interests. The law assumes that children should have a relationship with both parents unless there are concerns about safety or the child’s wellbeing. Courts are generally supportive of arrangements that allow both parents to be involved, but the child’s needs will always be the priority.

How should we celebrate?
Father’s Day is more than just a day for cards and gifts. It’s a chance to acknowledge the special role fathers play in their children’s lives. But it’s also a reminder that a child benefits most when they have the love and support of both parents. Both mothers and fathers contribute in unique and valuable ways, and their involvement in a child’s life can make all the difference.

Family law helps ensure that, even after parents separate, both can continue to play an active role in their child’s life. The Children Act 1989 ensures that parental involvement is not just encouraged, but presumed, unless there are serious reasons otherwise. If parents can’t agree on arrangements, the court can intervene, but the child’s best interests will always come first.

This Father’s Day, let’s celebrate not only fathers, but the importance of both parents working together to provide the best possible future for their children. Because when both parents are present, children are given the best chance at happiness, stability, and success.

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads and father figures out there making a difference every day!